Does Your Family Support Your Spirituality?

Hey Lovelies,

When you are on a spiritual journey, your life begins to change in ways you cannot even fathom. It is very exciting to learn new things about yourself and expand on your path towards enlightenment. Oftentimes it can be tempting to want to talk about your experiences with your loved ones and family members, but unfortunately, some may not understand it, or even want to hear about it at all.

Spirituality is simply not for everyone. Many people, including myself, face apprehension from family members that deem it as wrong or sinful. So what do you do when your family does not support your spirituality? For me personally, I do nothing. This approach may seem extremely passive to some, but I find that not speaking about it to those who do not understand prevents a strain on the relationship.

Most of my extended family members do not understand my spirituality and do not care to either, and for me, that is okay. I realize that we do not all have to believe or practice the same things in order to love one another or to associate with one another. As long as everyone remains respectful, then we have no issue. You cannot force your opinion or beliefs onto others, especially in regards to spirituality. It is important to give others their space and allow them to come to you with questions if interested.

For some, an ultimatum is given to either choose their spirituality or their family. When placed in situations like this, I would say to try and explain how much it means to you. Explain how you do not expect them to understand your decision or to choose the same, however, your spirituality is something that you believe in your heart and are not willing to give up. If they truly love you, they will grow to be at peace with your decision.

When placed in these situations, it is helpful to find friends or organizations of like-minded spiritual people that you CAN share your experiences with without judgment. Places like The Ganden Temple, which is an online community for spiritual and conscious individuals, provide a safe space to learn, share, grow, and evolve together.

With Love,
Miss T



Soul Music Review

Hey Lovelies,

I have a confession to make about an obsession of mine. Before you get too excited, it’s something that I think the many of you are also quite fond of, Music! I love music, both listening to it and making it as well. More specifically, I am a huge fan of R&B/Soul Music, both old school and new school. I truly believe soul music provides a spiritual experience for both the listener and vocalist alike. All of that being said, on Wednesdays, I would like to review a featured love song. Some of the songs will be old classics and others will be new favorites.

The song featured today is ‘Endless Love’ a duet by Diana Ross and Lionel Richie. The song was produced by Lionel Richie and released in August of 1981. Here is a link to the song below…

“Endless Love” is a classic! Featuring two soulful voices over a soft piano, classic guitar, and whimsical strings, it is a truly stunning recording. Richie’s musical talent is tremendous and I am continuously inspired by his ability to play numerous instruments and write countless songs with such ease. The legendary Ms. Ross never disappoints with her bright warm tone and lovely lyrical accentuation. “Endless Love” reached number one on the Billboard Hot 100 charts and became one of the best selling songs of Ross’s career.

The soulful ballad is about a couple professing their undying love towards one another and proving their eternal devotion. It illustrates two people that truly live for their union and the idea of two becoming one. The expression of having a soulmate is a deep spiritual experience in that your souls are intertwined far beyond the physical form. I believe this song truly conveys the essence of love.

With Love,
Miss T

Dating Disasters (The Meditating Man)

Hey Lovelies,

On Tuesdays, I thought it would be fun to share some dating disaster stories. A few of the stories will be my own and others will not. When browsing, I came across a funny story on that I’d like to share with you all.

This story was written by Kay, age 30, from London, England.

‘My date started doing his daily meditation in the middle of the restaurant’

“The last date I went on wasn’t exactly the worst I’ve ever had, but it was definitely one of the funniest. I went out with a guy I met at a singles event. We chatted a bit and he seemed nice, so we set up a date. We ended up at a restaurant, but opted for drinks and dessert rather than a full meal.
On the date it soon became clear that we were very different. He’s really into new-age philosophy and I am much more grounded. But the best part was when, about half an hour into the date, he started to meditate in the middle of the restaurant.
It was part of his daily routine and he didn’t want to skip it even though we were having dinner. He did inform me in advance and I didn’t object. I was too shocked. I tried to be very polite and withdrew to the ladies’ room when it was time for his meditation. I came back to the table in time to save our waiter who brought us dessert and clearly didn’t know what to do with a meditating guest. After dessert, he said he was available for a second date. I was left contemplating how best to tell him I wasn’t keen.
In the end we ended up going Dutch on the bill. I was glad, because that way I knew I didn’t owe him anything. He never called, and I haven’t tried to get in touch either.”

Just visualizing this story made me laugh out loud! I commend the man for his dedication to his practice. I’m sure many individuals would be caught a little off guard if placed in the same position as Kay. I commend her for respecting his choice and being polite about the situation. Oftentimes, spirituality can be a bit “much” for others that do not understand the practice. It is helpful if your partner is able to not only understand your journey, but to help you and encourage you along the way!

With Love,
Miss T

Does Location Matter in Spiritual Dating???

Hey Lovelies,

So earlier today I was thinking about the concept of spiritual dating, and I wondered what are the most spiritual or enlightened cities in America. Living in the South, I do not hear much about the concept of non-traditional spirituality and it is oftentimes frowned upon to even think outside the traditional Christian norm. After pondering for a while, I did a little research online and found an article published by They conducted a study to calculate the most enlightened cities in the United States using various considerations and the top ten list is as follows:

2.Santa Cruz
3.Santa Monica
4.San Francisco
5.Palo Alto
9.West Hollywood
10.Salt Lake City

I am sure it is no coincidence that all of the cities listed in the study are on the West Coast, more particularly, California. California is thought to be a very democratic and forwardly thinking place by many, and this list seems to be indicative of that. I question why it seems the East Coast is still very hesitant to open up to spirituality or other forms of religion outside of the conventional practices. Living in the Bible belt, so many individuals are programmed into thinking a very specific way, and the consideration of otherwise is heavily frowned upon. I have had the privilege of living on both coasts of the country in my life, and I must say I have observed a slightly different mindset betwixt the two. I find, overall, the West Coast seems to be a bit more open-minded and accepting. Whether or not the feeling is genuine has yet to be determined. And don’t get me wrong, I truly love the East Coast, this opinion is just based off of my own personal experiences.

Now you might be wondering what this information has to do with spiritual dating, but in actuality, it may be helpful in finding a potential mate. If you are a spiritual single looking for love or even friendship, you may consider looking on the West Coast. Even if you do not live in the area, there is always the potential to date from a distance, especially if finding a spouse with similar beliefs to your own is a high priority. Thankfully, there are many online dating services today that allow you to interact, meet, and even date individuals that may not be geographically close to you but share your interests. All of this is not to say that you cannot find spiritual individuals in other parts of the country, you just may have a little more difficulty.

If you want to share your experiences with spiritual dating, leave it in the comments!  Also, let me know if you think geographic location makes a difference finding a potential mate. Let’s chat!

With Love,
Miss T


Hey Lovelies,

Thank you for checking out my blog, The Essence of Love. This blog will take a spiritual look into the topics of love, sex, relationships, and more! As a young woman, currently on a spiritual journey, I search to find where divinity has an affect on interactions in society.

I believe love is the most powerful force in the universe and has the ability to withstand any and all adversity. It is a feeling that is inclusive of everyone, regardless of race, gender, socioeconomic status, and sexual orientation. Whether it is love of family, friends, companionship, etc., it is a sentiment that is universally felt by all during this wonderful and trying experience we call life.

The Essence of Love will explore surprising facts and statistics, funny anecdotes, personal observations, discussions, and more. Taking a spiritual approach will allow for a unique perspective and provide meaning in places where there seems to be none. In the words of a famous pop star from Barbados, “we all want the same thing…we all want love”, so let’s delve in!

With Love,
Miss T


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