10 Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts: Positive Thinking Made Easy

By: Michelle Uy

When we start to have negative thoughts, it’s hard to stop them. And it’s much easier said than done to shift your focus to positive thoughts. But it’s the only way, especially if you want to avoid going down a path that is painful and unnecessary.

Here are ten things I did to help overcome my negative thoughts that you can also try:

1. Meditate or do yoga.

One of the first things I did was head to a yoga class. It took my focus away from my thoughts and brought my attention to my breath. Yoga is also very relaxing, which helped ease my mind. Yoga helped me stay present to my experience so instead of jumping to what could happen, it brought me back to the now—the only moment, the most important moment.

2. Smile.

I didn’t do much of this during the weekend, so I literally had to bring myself in front of a mirror and force myself to smile. It really does help change your mood and relieve stress. I also felt lighter because it takes fewer muscles to smile than to frown.

3. Surround yourself with positive people.

I called a friend who I knew could give me constructive yet loving feedback. When you’re stuck in a negative spiral, talk to people who can put things into perspective and won’t feed your negative thinking.

4. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive.

For example, instead of thinking, “We are going to have a hard time adjusting to our living situation,” think, “We will face some challenges in our living situation, but we will come up with solutions that we will both be happy with.”

5. Don’t play the victim. You create your life—take responsibility.

The way I was thinking and acting, you would think I was stuck. Even if our living situation becomes unbearable, there is always a way out. I will always have the choice to make change happen, if need be.

6. Help someone.

Take the focus away from you and do something nice for another person. I decided to make a tray of food and donate it to the Salvation Army. It took my mind off of things and I felt better for helping someone else.

7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward.

It’s easy to dwell on your mistakes. I felt terrible that I acted this way and that I wasted our weekend. The only thing I can do now is learn from my mistakes and move forward. I definitely don’t want to have a weekend like that again.

8. Sing.

I don’t remember lyrics very well and it’s probably the reason that I don’t enjoy singing, but every time I do sing I always feel better. When we sing, we show our feelings and this provides an amazing stress relief.

9. List five things that you are grateful for right now.

Being grateful helps appreciate what you already have. Here’s my list: my cats, health, a six-week trip to Asia, a new yoga class that I’ll be teaching, and for my mom’s biopsy coming out clean.

10. Read positive quotes.

I like to place Post-It notes with positive quotes on my computer, fridge door, and mirror as reminders to stay positive. Also, I’d like to share with you a quote by an unknown author that was shared in a meditation class that I attended:

Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

Happy positive thinking!

Full article: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-tips-to-overcome-negative-thoughts-positive-thinking-made-easy/

10 Simple Ways to Find Happiness

By: Barton Goldsmith Ph.D.

We all want to feel happy, and each one of us has different ways of getting there. Here are 10 steps you can take to increase your joie de vivre and bring more happiness into your life:

  1. Be with others who make you smile. Studies show that we are happiest when we are around those who are also happy. Stick with those who are joyful and let rub off on you.
  2. Hold on to your values. What you find true, what you know is fair, and what you believe in are all values. Over time, the more you honor them, the better you will feel about yourself and those you love.
  3. Accept the good. Look at your life and take stock of what’s working, and don’t push away something just because it isn’t perfect. When good things happen, even the very little ones, let them in.
  4. Imagine the best. Don’t be afraid to look at what you really want and see yourself getting it. Many people avoid this process because they don’t want to be disappointed if things don’t work out. The truth is that imagining getting what you want is a big part of achieving it.
  5. Do things you love. Maybe you can’t skydive every day or take vacations every season, but as long as you get to do the things you love every once in a while, you will find greater happiness.
  6. Find purpose. Those who believe they are contributing to the well-being of humanity tend to feel better about their lives. Most people want to be part of something greater than they are, simply because it’s fulfilling.
  7. Listen to your heart. You are the only one who knows what fills you up. Your family and friends may think you’d be great at something that really doesn’t float your boat. It can be complicated following your bliss. Just be smart, and keep your day job for the time being.
  8. Push yourself, not others. It’s easy to feel that someone else is responsible for your fulfillment, but the reality is that it is really your charge. Once you realize that, you have the power to get where you want to go. Stop blaming others or the world, and you’ll find your answers much sooner.
  9. Be open to change. Even if it doesn’t feel good, change is the one thing you can count on. Change will happen, so make contingency plans and emotionally shore yourself up for the experience.
  10. Bask in the simple pleasures. Those who love you, treasured memories silly jokes, warm days, and starry nights—these are the ties that bind and the gifts that keep on giving.

Full Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/barton-goldsmith-phd

A Return to Love

By: Jennifer Mualin

Life is a process,
your soul its master;
the star the journey,
that guides its light.
Freedom is the essence
of life and love.
Love is the essence
of life and God.
God is the essence
of life.
Give to receive,
believe to achieve,
demand nothing,
accept everything,
let go and let God,
and just seek to change,
that which does not serve you.
Judge nothing,
that you may not be judged.
Risk everything,
at the sake of pure love.
Laugh loud,
cry hard,
extend a hand to the God inside.
Be your self
and dance your failures,
since there are no mistakes,
only perfection in disguise.
See no enemies,
for what you see is what you get,
what you expect is what you bring forth,
and the only lesson
is not one to learn,
but only to remember
with the song of your soul.
Heal all with love,
forgive all with joy,
that you may forgive yourself,
and dance with the music of your soul.
Be to do,
love to be,
be your self
with no regrets,
and don’t forget,
you are creating everything,
there is no time but now,
and the only thing that matters
is your oneness with life.

Soul Music Wednesday

Hey Lovelies,

Happy Humpday Everyone! As some of you may know, it is Soul Music Wednesday! I truly believe soul music provides a spiritual experience for both the listener and vocalist alike. On Wednesdays, I like to share a featured love song and give my feedback on the record. Some of the songs will be old classics and others will be new favorites.

The song featured today is “Be Happy” by Mary J. Blige. The song was written by Mary J. Blige, Sean Combs, Arlene DeValle, J.C. Olivier, and Chucky Thompson. The song generated success on the R&B Singles charts and entering the Top 40 of Billboard Hot 100. “Be Happy” was released in October of 1994. Here is a link to the song below…

I really love this classic 90’s record because it speaks about the search for happiness and love that is so sought after. Materialism ultimately fades, but the desire to be joyful and content with those you love is a universal message that Mary delivers so beautifully. Personally, if I find or attain true happiness, then I have unlocked the key to an emotionally prosperous life.

With Love,
Miss T

How To Keep Yourself Motivated When You’re Not Feeling It

“A diamond is just a piece of charcoal that handled stress exceptionally well.” ~Unknown

I’m great with short-term goals. In fact, I prefer them. Work my butt off for a few months to reach a goal? I’m down with that. I’ll give up a social life, down time, spending money, eating yummy food (read: sugar), drinking alcohol—whatever it takes, for the short-term. Long-term goals—ugh, not so much.

Despite this preference for pretty immediate gratification, I have followed through with many long-term goals in my life (school and various trainings, long-distance relationships, starting and re-starting businesses, to name a few).

There have also been quite a few of these goals that I’ve dropped that I wished I hadn’t.

I, like many of us, have noticed a pattern of finding it much more difficult to stay engaged once the initial excitement of starting something new has worn off.

Through this learning process of motivating myself to follow through with longer-view goals, I’ve come up with a few steps that have really helped me to stay focused and on track. Here are three steps that can help.

Remind yourself that you’re in charge.

There are loads of reasons we get off track with goals. Self-doubt, fear we won’t succeed, and concern that we are not setting realistic goals are just a few of them.

This is really important to remember: You can change this goal if you want. You can keep going, you can revise it, or you can dump it altogether.

When we are experiencing doubts, it’s easy to feel like we have no power; it’s easy to feel like we don’t have a choice. However, most often, we do.

I find it helps to simply remind myself that I’m in charge. Many times, when the going gets tough, we begin to feel like the choices we made (sometimes long ago) are not our own. Sometimes a reminder to ourselves that we are the ones who originally set this goal is a good way to rev the engine.

When I first started acupuncture school, I was pretty young, but it had been several years since I’d been in school. I’d been living on my own, partying it up, and doing whatever I liked.

I saw pretty quickly that I had to get serious, stop staying out late so often, and learn to organize my time and resources far better then I had been. In short, I had to get productive.

Well, the meltdown that ensued was not very attractive. I didn’t want to give up my young, single, and independent lifestyle! I didn’t want to trade late nights with my friends for late nights with textbooks and manuals!

That went on for about a week, until a wise friend (who was tired of my whining), said, basically, “You wanted this. Get with it, or quit school.”

It was the kick in the butt I needed to stop complaining and remember that I did want it. I was very driven to be an acupuncturist, because it’s an amazing modality. And I strongly desired (and continue to desire) to live a life of service.

I won’t say it was completely smooth sailing from there on out, but my productivity and focus were certainly much improved.

Look back at all you’ve already achieved.

If you have been taking steps towards your goal for a while, then it can be great to take some time to consider all that you have already accomplished. All long haul goals take multiple, incremental steps to attain. Pat yourself on the back, and remind yourself of these achievements.

The thing is, once an incremental step is attained, it can quickly feel like not quite so big of a deal. It becomes commonplace, and it’s not as exciting as it was when we first accomplished it. That’s normal, and understandable, and it’s great to look back occasionally and remind ourselves what a big deal reaching that step really was at the time.

When I’m frustrated about what feels like a lack of movement toward a goal, I sit down and make a list of the steps I have already enacted to reach it, and what the results of those steps have been. I am almost always surprised at how much I’ve produced. This clarity helps in releasing those feelings of frustration.

Explore the reasons you’re going for this goal, and remind yourself often.

While I was in school, there were many times when I simply wanted to quit.

I had student loans (that were growing!). As I mentioned, there was little time for a social and personal life. I was learning a technique that required a very different perspective (energy medicine vs. the physical body) then I had previously.

Besides that, I was starting to sweat the idea of running my own business. Would I fail? Could I make it work? Maybe I was nuts to think I could succeed at this at all!

When I’d start to get too caught up in all that noise, I would literally sit down and remind myself of the reasons I’d chosen the path I had.

I loved acupuncture; despite fear about being self-employed, I craved that independence; I resonated strongly with the concepts of energy I was learning, even if the vocabulary was new.

Taking the time to have these talks with myself helped to re-invigorate me, to renew my focus, and encouraged me to continue.

To really follow through with a longer-term goal, we have to have solid reasons that make sense to us.

That said, goals aren’t set in stone. Like everything in life, it’s good to approach them with flexibility and open-mindedness.

If you can’t successfully remind yourself of your initial reasons for going for the goal, and get re-ignited about those reasons, then it might be time to re-assess.

Only we can decide what is best for us, and that can change over time. It’s so important to give ourselves permission to go for goals with full-on focus and gusto, or to change them, or put them aside for a while, or whatever else we decide is right at that time.

What techniques do you use to keep yourself motivated on your goal-getting journey?



A Circle of Kindness Started by a 10 Year Old Girl

By: oneluckylady

I was shopping at my local supermarket., as I normaly have for years.  One particular day, I had done about 2 weeks worth of shopping and was headed toward the register to pay for my groceries.  After the cashier had scanned my items and I had bagged them up, she stated that the total was $150.

I reached into my back right pocket to grab the money to pay and noticed that there was no money in there.  I started to get nervous.  I knew my pocket book was in the car and I was sure I had put the money in my back right pocket. I look at cashier with wet eyes and a confused look not knowing what to do.  There were people behind me on the line. She told me to speak with the courtesy counter.  I laughed and said, “Really? It’s cash, no one would hand that in!”

I said I would be right back and ran to my truck to get out more money to pay my bill, money that was to be used to pay another bill.  I ran back inside and handed money to the cashier.  She again prompted me to ask the courtesy desk, “You never know…” she said.  I laugh and said “okay”.

I decided that there was no harm in checking so I walked up to a women behind the counter and said “I have to ask, did anyone turn in cash by any chance?”. She asked “How much?”.  My face then lit up.  “$200 in the form of one hundred dollar bills.” I replied.  She said, “Actually, yes, someone did!”.  I was so surprised! “Who? I want to thank them.”  She points to a young girl about 10 years old and says, “She did.”

I walked over to the mom and hugged her.  She said, “It wasn’t me, it was my daugther”.  I said “I know, I wanted thank you both, although she found it … it’s becuase of you that I got this back.”  I was so happy, I was almost in tears.

The next day at work, a person in another department offered me ticeks to the circus.  He handed me 5 tickets. Almost instantly that young girls face popped in my head.  After work I went back to the supermarket and stopped at the courtesy counter and asked if they had any idea who that women was?  She smiled and said, “Yes, actually I do.  She is a friend of mine”.  Oh good, I was so happy.   I asked her to do me a favor and pass along these 5 tickets to her and say thank you from me.

She told me that the family of the little girl who found my money don’t have very much so they would really appreciate this.  She also said that they have 3 children, so five was the prefect number of tickets! “Wow,” I thought.

At first, I had I felt a little wierd bringing those tickets to the store but I am SO glad I did!

Lesson: Never think twice about doing someting nice for someone.


5 Places to Find Peace and Healing

By: Alex Blackwell
Sometimes you just need to get away from it all – away from the noise, away from the problems and away from the people who are trying to drag you down.

Going to a place of peace and healing isn’t about avoidance or surrender; it’s about finding refuge in a place where you can refocus your mind and reenergize your spirit so you can keep moving forward. The good news is these places aren’t far away. In fact, these places are all around you and they are in you.

Here are five places of peace and healing that are waiting to welcome you whenever you need to visit:

1. Your place of solitude is where quiet meets you. In this place you are keenly aware of life’s more beautiful noise like the gentle sounds humming through your house or the sound of rain sweetly kissing the window. Your place of solitude is where you can quiet your mind and let peace cover you like a warm blanket.

2. Your place with loved ones is where you feel whole once again. The comfort your loved one provides can fill you back up when you feel empty. They can fill you up with security, confidence and purpose. Your place with loves ones is where your broken spirit is nurtured back to health.

3. Your place for worship is where you can re-connect with your Maker. No matter if it’s a church, synagogue or your favorite spot under a tree, when you turn to faith and believe that peace and healing will return, it usually does. Your place for worship is where your soul finds the encouragement to never give up.

4. Your place in nature is where you can bring your mind and body back into alignment. Taking a walk while witnessing the gifts nature provides can lower your stress and clear your mind like no other remedy. Your place of nature is where you can shift your focus from the problem of the day and to the beauty surrounding you.

5. Your place for inspiration is where you imagination and creativity come alive. Whether it’s a woodshop, golf course or a book, feeding your mind, body and spirit with what stirs your passion is nourishing. Your place for inspiration is where you find your spark to keep the fire burning.

Link to Full Article: http://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/everydayinspiration/2014/06/5-places-to-find-peace-and-healing.html

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