Dating Disasters (Matchmaking Disaster)

Hey Lovelies,

On Tuesdays, I thought it would be fun to share some dating disaster stories. A few of the stories will be my own and others will not. When browsing, I came across an unfortunate story on that I’d like to share with you all.

The Matchmaking Disaster
This Story Was Shared By Mike Rafferty

“I grew up in Worcester, Massachusetts, lived and went to school in Boulder, Colorado, and moved to Idaho in 1994 to take a job at a video-production company. I was hip, good-looking and had a great job financially. Was a bit lonely, as most of the girls in the area were married, dating or had way too much baggage or kids.

So a friend set me up on a blind date with a girl in Jerome, Idaho. She told me she was very pretty and sweet but had had some unfortunate past incidents.

I drove out to the girl’s farm in my huge 1993 Isuzu Trooper, only to be introduced to a girl in a wheelchair who was missing teeth but who must have been very pretty before a horrific car accident.

As an East Coast gentleman, I was deeply apologetic and explained to her and her family that her wheelchair would not fit in my car. (The 1993 Trooper was the first year of Isuzu’s new super-size SUV.) They all looked out the window to my big red SUV and looked back at me as I politely walked out the door.

I felt very bad about the situation, but when I went back to my matchmaker, I almost killed her for sending me out to her farm without giving me the full details. She told me that “beauty is skin deep.”

Maybe. But living in Twin Falls, Idaho for 40 years can make you see beauty completely differently from a regular Masshole.”

I was very disappointed in Mike’s actions in this story. Unfortunately, while his reaction may have been harsh, it was not unlike how others would have also reacted when placed in the same situation. Physical appearance means a great deal to most people. While the young lady may have been a very fine girl, he simply could not look past her exterior. In addition, she had a disability, and many people aren’t willing to care for someone else in that capacity. Was Mike wrong for ending the date before it ever began, or was he saving everyone time if he knew he had no interest. To me, I think Mike should have given her a chance. He may have fell in love with her personality and spirit, allowing him to look past the exterior. But, if he simply could not look past it, then then she is most likely better off without him. Hopefully the girl can find someone that will cherish and love her unconditionally, despite her disability.

With Love,
Miss T

11 Best Way To Meet Someone in Real Life

Hey Lovelies,

Happy Monday! I hope everyone had a fantastic weekend. This weekend I finally started watching the worldwide phenomenon that is, Game of Thrones. I must admit that I absolutely love the show and look forward to catching up to the current season. Anyways, as on a typical Monday post, I am going to present a survey dealing with relationships and/or spirituality, and give my commentary on the results.

We have discussed many aspects of dating and relationships on this blog, but have not delved into different places that you might meet a potential mate. Oftentimes, many people turn to online dating because they are unable to find a date in person. I researched a survey from of The 11 Best Ways To Meet Someone In Real Life, Because Online Dating Really Isn’t The Only Option and the list was as follows:

1. Never Skip Work Happy Hour
2. Check Out What Events Your Friends Are Attending On Facebook (And Go)
3. Always Go To Friends’ Birthday Parties
4. Take Public Transportation To Work
5. Volunteer Your Time
6. Don’t Close Yourself Off To Talking With Strangers
7. Get A Dog (Or Borrow One To Take For A Walk)
8. Take A Class
9. Agree To Be Set Up
10. Become A Regular Somewhere
11. Do More Things Alone

This list is very honest and real. It can be very difficult to meet someone in person, but in order to do so, you might have to step outside of your comfort zone. Most of the ways simply involve putting yourself out there for people to find. Oftentimes there are many potentials waiting, they may just not know you are there because you have never crossed paths. Online dating is not for everyone, and some would rather have a physical connection in person first for numerous reasons. In a world when “catfishing” or lying about your true identity is common, it is understandable why some would prefer an initial in person meeting.

I know several people that have met their boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife, through other people or events thrown by friends, so I encourage going to birthday parties and Facebook events. It is also great because most likely they are a friend of a friend and somewhat vetted in some circumstance. It is important to remember when adhering to this advice to remember to always be safe. When taking public transportation, talking to strangers, and doing more things alone, remember to be aware of your surroundings and to be careful when giving out your information for contact. People often say that it is difficult to meet someone once out of college or schooling because options are limited, so taking a class or volunteering would be a great way to meet someone new. Not skipping work happy hour is not necessarily about connecting with coworkers, but more so about meeting potential mates out doing the same. The most important thing when trying to meet someone in person is to put yourself out there. Just remember to always be safe and mindful of individuals that may not have your best interests in mind.

With Love,
Miss T


Spiritual Getaway

Hey Lovelies,

One of the most enjoyable things to do with your significant other or friends, in my opinion, is to travel. Experiencing new things and places with your loved ones creates lasting memories and deepens bonds. There are many spiritual locations located all throughout the world for lovers and friends alike. Each week, I will introduce a spiritual destination that would make a perfect romantic getaway or a fun trip with your girl or guy friends.

This week’s featured travel destination is Egypt.

Egypt is a country with extensive history and architecture. Ancient Egyptians were extremely enlightened individuals and put great focus on the spiritual journey. Housing one of the Seven Wonders of the World, Egypt is a place that will allow for a fulfilling exploration and enlightening vacation.


Egypt is well known for it’s ancient pyramids. The pyramid represents bigger consciousness of strength and energy. They are symbols for the integration of self and soul. The great pyramids of Egypt are a pinnacle in one’s spiritual journey. While they house the dead, they symbolize rebirth. The base of the pyramid represents the body, the sides represent spiritual attempts, and the point represents the union of the human with the “higher self. The shape of the pyramids reflect aspects of the divine unity. The main purpose of the great pyramids was to be a place for spiritual initiation and seeking the divine within oneself. There are many different tours offered of the pyramids in Egypt. Extended Tours tend to be between roughly five and fourteen days. It is important to keep in mind that you are in the desert, so proper hydration and clothing is a must when visiting these sacred places. A guide will be provided along the tours that will provide extensive knowledge and information. In order to go inside of the Great Pyramid, you have to pay an addition fee. The spaces have been described as tight and small, but an experience unlike any other.

Yoga & Meditation

Egypt offers special yoga and meditation tours. These tours invite you to practice yoga in Egypt while relaxing on the luscious beaches of the Red Sea to iconic deserts, pyramids, and temples. The tours also offer plenty of other fun activities such as camel-riding, snorkeling, or even scuba diving.

Crystal Healing

Ancient Egyptian culture strongly believed in the utilization of crystals. They often buried the dead with quartz on the forehead, believed to help guide the dead safely into the afterlife. Many wore crystals over their heart to attract love, and certain stones were worn by royalty to promote enlightenment. They believed crystals to align, heal, and alter the vibration of bodily cells, chakras, and subtle bodies. These ancient techniques are still utilized today, and there are several places in Egypt that still offer this same service such as Shakti and numerous wellness centers.

Egypt is a place of great spiritual energy. It is a country that was very enlightened and became the originators of many practices we use to this day. If you are looking for a destination to have a fulfilling journey of enlightenment, then Egypt is definitely a place to check out. I personally have vowed to visit Egypt before I leave this earth.

With Love,
Miss T

Let’s Read Poetry

Hey Lovelies,

Happy Thursday! Can you believe it’s almost the weekend already! For today’s blog, I am going to continue with the tradition of last week and deem today Poetry Thursday. I am a huge fan of art, music, and expression. One of these forms being poetry. In college I used to love going to poetry slams, as the artists performed with so much vigor and passion. Poets are truly able to paint a picture with words and I am continuously in awe of their talent. That being said, on some Thursdays, I would like to feature a poem about love, spirituality, or both in order to honor the theme of this blog.

With Love,
Miss T

“The Robot”
By Michael Mack

Upon the stairway of despair,
Complete with broken love affairs
And promises that never came,
But faded with a touch of shame,
A pretty girl with golden hair
And innocence so sadly rare,
Strove to keep her head above
A way of life devoid of love.

Feeling pinned against Life’s wall,
She chanced upon a robot tall
And said, “Please come and share with me
Whatever Fate has deemed to be.
I’m through with love, done with chances
Spirit crushed by past romances,
Just be a friend in word and deed.
That’s all that I shall ever need.”

“There’s not too much from me to learn,”
Remarked the robot, in return.
“Emotions do not form a part
of my cold, solid-steel heart.
Whatever maker fashioned me
Did not permit my circuitry
Responsiveness to love or pain –
Your thoughts for me would be in vain.”

“No matter”, spoke the maid. “No more
Do I wish passion to explore.
Be someone I can come home to
When my exhausting day is through.
Count yourself a well-worn shoe –
A friend that I can slip into . . .
Protection from a stone cold floor . . .
For this I ask and nothing more.”

Agreement made, he took her hand
And lived the life that she had planned,
Always willing, not demanding,
Aiding her with understanding
He made her smile with humorous wit
(As his restrictions would permit)
And, bit by bit, she came to feel
That he was more than iron and steel.

“I love you, robot”, she at last
Replied when several months had passed.
“You’re strength and quiet dignity
Have brought a wondrous change in me.
No more do I feel all alone,
And pray you must be flesh and bone.
Deep-set emotions you MUST feel
Within that outer coat of steel!”

“If I were able, I would say
I’m sorry I was made this way
But my design and programmation
Does not provide for that creation
Of feelings normal men may feel
That were not born of iron and steel.
I told you all this once before.
You have no right expecting more.”

“Go, then!” cried she. “I will not live
Beside a fiend who cannot give!
Though I be battered by misuse,
Misguided trust and strong abuse,
At least the men I chose were real
And had the power to love and feel.
Of all the lovers I recall,
You are the cruelest one of all!”

The robot, indestructible,
Continues freely and at will.
Emotionless, apparently,
But, bearing closer scrutiny,
One can see a small tear streak
Down that cold, metallic cheek
As I reflect upon my life . . .
That lovely lady was my wife.

The robot, of course, was me.

Soul Music Wednesday

Hey Lovelies!

Happy Humpday Everyone! As some of you may know, it is Soul Music Wednesday! I truly believe soul music provides a spiritual experience for both the listener and vocalist alike. On Wednesdays, I like to share a featured love song and give my feedback on the record. Some of the songs will be old classics and others will be new favorites.

The song featured today is “We Are Family”, sung by r&b girl group Sister Sledge. The song was written and produced by Nile Rodgers and Bernard Edwards. “We Are Family” was released in April of 1979 and featured on the album We Are Family. Here is a link to the song is below…

“We Are Family” was a huge success and was certified Gold by the RIAA selling over 500,000 copies in the US alone. The song reached number one on the Billboard R&B charts and number two on the Billboard Hot 100 Charts as well. Billboard also listed the song at #20 on their list of 100 Greatest Girl Group Songs of All Time. “We Are Family is definitely a classic at every black family reunion or cookout. It is an anthem to celebrate your family and promote fun and good times. I love the message of the record as I deeply love my family and always enjoy the time I get to spend with my loved ones.

Perhaps the most important relationship one has in life is with his or her family. Romances and friendships can come and go, but oftentimes your close family members are a constant. The relationship with one’s siblings especially, such as the Sledge Sisters sang in the song, is one to be cherished. Brothers and sisters can be some of the greatest friends and confidants in the world, but unfortunately some do struggle to build an authentic bond. Good siblings are there for each other through thick and thin and will provide a helping hand when called upon. They are loving, caring, and welcoming. I personally have a great relationship with my older brother and can’t imagine my life without him. Having a loving family is a blessing, and while fighting and disagreement does occur, your family can be your greatest support system in life.

With Love,
Miss T

Dating Disasters

Hey Lovelies,

On Tuesdays, I thought it would be fun to share some dating disaster stories. A few of the stories will be my own and others will not. When browsing, I came across a comical story on that I’d like to share with you all.

This Story Was Shared By J. Perez

(Note that this story has been shortened to the gist of the action, in which our author has gone home with a hot girl named Clem who he met at a bar.)

“I stepped into the apartment and noticed the place was relatively clean and quite roomy, albeit dark, since it was late. I took a seat on the loveseat located in the living room. Clem turned on the TV, handed me the remote control and then headed into the kitchen for a bit. While I flipped through channels, I noticed a crack of light shimmer through the hallway and I hear a TV playing. I assumed it was her roommate — wrong.

Out strolls this young child, a boy. I’m terrible at ages, so I can’t pinpoint how old he was, but he was old enough to walk and could sort of formulate sentences. As he walked out, he saw this weird stranger this lady brought home slumped down on the couch. He smiled and ran back down the hallway.

At that moment, the wheels in my head begin to turn, and I can’t help but tell myself, “Well, this just got sort of weird.” I prayed in my heart of hearts that this young child is the roommate’s. Right then, the kid sprinted back out from the hallway into the living area at full speed. He smiled at me again and waltzed right into the kitchen and screams, “Mommy!” My heart dropped. I decided that it’s best I start formulating an exit strategy.

Just then, I heard Clem call out my name and invite me to the kitchen. I was super reluctant to answer but did so anyway. As I walked toward the kitchen, I told myself that it was going to be very awkward, but then I noticed Clem under the bright lights of the kitchen. I realized how gorgeous she really is. I mean, I knew she was attractive, but I thought she was only dimly-lit-bar pretty. To my amazement, she’s arguably the most attractive female I have ever kissed. She told me, “I want you to meet someone. This is Piss-Shit-Fart [I don’t remember the kid’s name and don’t want to remember].”

In a very superficial manner, I patted his head, smiled and said hi in a high-pitched, overexcited voice. Although I felt uncomfortable and upset that she didn’t tell me about her kid, all that was water under the bridge when I realized how gorgeous she really is. In that moment, I told myself, “It’s back on. You ain’t goin’ nowhere, boy!”

I asked Clem if I could use her bathroom. She pointed down the hall and told me I could use the one in the bedroom. I can remember being super excited and thinking how I was going to bag my first hot older chick, but right then and there, my heart slumped once again. As I was walking through her room I notice her bed is directly adjacent to a crib. All of a sudden I can’t help but fabricate this mental picture of me plowing a screaming Clementine in a hardcore porn-sex manner while this poor child bears witness in horror as he tightly grips the bars of the crib like a death row inmate.

Needless to say, I was back in the dumps. I started formulating my escape plan again. I didn’t want to be rude and just abruptly leave, so I decided I would sit back down for a bit and then fake a phone call and tell her it was an emergency and that I had to leave. It was an unconvincing plan, but at that point I really had no desire to make a move on this young mother.

But as I sat down, Clem greeted me with a drink. She smiled and told me it’s Johnny Walker on crushed ice. She handed it to me, then sat down next to me, draped one of her legs over mine, gave me a long, hard kiss, and then rubbed my inner thigh. She smiled again, and then got up and headed back to the kitchen.

At that point, I flipped it to Spike TV, and sure enough they’re playing one of my favorite BJ Penn fights. I’m lounging back, sippin’ on a nice drink, getting amazing kisses and pseudo handjobs from a gorgeous woman, and watching one of the all-time greats pound some dude’s face into hamburger! Life could not get any better.

At that point, I felt like a Soprano or something. It was like Popeye getting his spinach. I decided it was back on!While I was kicking back on cloud nine, out the corner of my eye, I noticed PSF running up and down the hallway again, screaming as he does so. This time, however, he’s clutching a small purple sword reminiscent of a roman gladius. It also looked a lot like those toy he-man swords I played with as a kid, the ones with the buttons on the handle that made the machine gun and bomb-dropping sound effects.

As he ran back down the hall, I heard a faint buzzing sound similar to that of a dentist drill against the hall wall. I didn’t think much of it, as I figured it was the roomie using an electric toothbrush or something. But PSF again ran back into the living area, this time coming toward me. In doing so, he’s slapping himself with the sword from cheek-to-cheek as he makes a weird grunting noise. As he came further into the living room and into the glare of the television, I finally took notice of the sword and realized that it is, in fact, not a sword. Instead, it’s a rather large dildo (that sucker must have been a good 15-18 inches).

He turned that bad boy on and began rubbing it on the coffee table, again making a pretty loud drilling noise. Clem must have taken notice because, all of a sudden, she rushed over and snatched the purple dick out of his hands. She then gave him a spank on the behind, yelling, “I told you to stop grabbing that!”

He quickly started crying and rushed off down the hallway again. Clem and I then locked eyes for about a split second, and in doing so, I noticed a look on her face that can only be described as utter humiliation. I returned a look of confusion with a half smile, as I was in a complete state of bewilderment trying to process what had just happened. She quickly rushed back to her room. Needless to say, all bets were off. That little episode was the tipping point. I knew I could not possibly make a move on her after that. I waited around idly for about two minutes, wondering if she was going to come back out. At that point, I asked myself what the hell I was still doing there and decided I’d best bounce.

I’m not sure how Clem reacted or what she did after that, but I can only imagine she walked back into the living room and was greeted by a cold breeze, as I was nowhere to be seen, with the door left wide open.”

This story was rather lengthy, but quite funny. I cannot imagine the utter embarrassment Clem must have felt in that moment. This story does bring up an interesting point however. Is it wrong to neglect to tell someone you have children, even if your intentions with them are just a one night stand. Also, if it is wrong, how soon should you introduce your child or children to someone you are dating or sleeping with. For me personally, I like to know very early on if some I may potentially date has kids or not. It allows me to access the situation and consider the potential responsibility. Relationships are built on trust and transparency, and when someone is hesitant to be forthcoming about having children, it causes me to question their honesty. If one has kids, it is not a deal breaker, but rather helps me to gain a better understanding of an individual’s character based on their relationship with their child. Granted, if you often partake in one night stands at home, you are probably not concerned about the pleasantries of an introduction. However, I think it is still important to be mindful of the people you may potentially have around your child. Ultimately, it is a parent’s decision to determine what information to disclose, but as a person on the other side, it is helpful to have a heads up.

With Love,
Miss T

Reasons Couples Argue While On Vacation

Hey Lovelies,

I hope everyone had a great weekend! Mine personally was very restful and relaxing. I also saw the new Spiderman which was pretty good. Does anyone else love Marvel and superhero movies as much as I do? Anyways, as on a typical Monday post, I am going to present a survey dealing with relationships and/or spirituality, and give my commentary on the results.

I have discussed many travel destinations on this blog for spiritual couples and friends. Vacations are supposed to be a time of relaxation, fun, and enjoyment. However, oftentimes couples can find themselves bickering for many reasons both large and trivial. In order to better understand these disagreements, I found a survey by of The Top 10 Reasons Couples Argue on Vacation and the list was as follows:

1. Men checking out other women at the pool or beach
2. Disagreements over activities
3. What to eat and where
4. Drinking too much
5. Driving and map reading
6. Packing
7. Women taking too long to get ready
8. Spending too much money
9. What time to get to the airport
10. Disagreements over currency

If you are one that loves to travel, it is helpful to find a mate that also loves the same, and will encourage the act. It is helpful to find someone that you can travel with without difficulty and annoyance. This can be a challenge that many do not understand until placed in a mentally exhausting and unenjoyable situation. This list of arguments does not surprise me in the slightest, as some of them are common arguments couples face when placed in typical everyday life. While, one cannot ensure that there will be no disharmony, there are steps I think you can take to provide the least amount of disagreement possible. The biggest thing I would say is to respect one another, which to some goes without saying, but still must be said. While on vacation, there is plenty of temptation from other individuals, but it is important to be respectful of your significant other and their feelings. Keeping your eyes, ears, hands, etc, can be a challenge at times, but while on a couples vacation, one’s focus should be dedicated to one another.

Overall, I believe in order to best avoid future arguments while on vacation, a couple should plan their trip in pretty good detail. While it’s fun to be spontaneous, you may find out that your partner does not want to do the same things as you, which can potentially cause some resentment on both sides. I think a couple should sit down and plan the activities that they wish to do while on holiday to avoid any misunderstanding. You should have an idea of the places and restaurants you wish to dine at, while there or along the way. Have an idea of when you wish to leave and how much money you choose to spend and/or bring, and honor that decision. Also be open-minded. While you may not want to do everything your spouse does, compromise and consider trying something new. Vacations should be fun and memorable. Individuals should be mindful of their words and actions to ensure the greatest trip possible.

With Love,
Miss T

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