On Tuesdays, I thought it would be fun to share some dating disaster stories. A few of the stories will be my own and others will not. When browsing, I came across an unfortunate story on Askmen.com that I’d like to share with you all.
The Matchmaking Disaster
This Story Was Shared By Mike Rafferty
“I grew up in Worcester, Massachusetts, lived and went to school in Boulder, Colorado, and moved to Idaho in 1994 to take a job at a video-production company. I was hip, good-looking and had a great job financially. Was a bit lonely, as most of the girls in the area were married, dating or had way too much baggage or kids.
So a friend set me up on a blind date with a girl in Jerome, Idaho. She told me she was very pretty and sweet but had had some unfortunate past incidents.
I drove out to the girl’s farm in my huge 1993 Isuzu Trooper, only to be introduced to a girl in a wheelchair who was missing teeth but who must have been very pretty before a horrific car accident.
As an East Coast gentleman, I was deeply apologetic and explained to her and her family that her wheelchair would not fit in my car. (The 1993 Trooper was the first year of Isuzu’s new super-size SUV.) They all looked out the window to my big red SUV and looked back at me as I politely walked out the door.
I felt very bad about the situation, but when I went back to my matchmaker, I almost killed her for sending me out to her farm without giving me the full details. She told me that “beauty is skin deep.”
Maybe. But living in Twin Falls, Idaho for 40 years can make you see beauty completely differently from a regular Masshole.”
I was very disappointed in Mike’s actions in this story. Unfortunately, while his reaction may have been harsh, it was not unlike how others would have also reacted when placed in the same situation. Physical appearance means a great deal to most people. While the young lady may have been a very fine girl, he simply could not look past her exterior. In addition, she had a disability, and many people aren’t willing to care for someone else in that capacity. Was Mike wrong for ending the date before it ever began, or was he saving everyone time if he knew he had no interest. To me, I think Mike should have given her a chance. He may have fell in love with her personality and spirit, allowing him to look past the exterior. But, if he simply could not look past it, then then she is most likely better off without him. Hopefully the girl can find someone that will cherish and love her unconditionally, despite her disability.